CNC fantasy, do you understand everything involved in CNC and how it could affect you? You need to understand if a CNC scene is not planned correctly, it can cause trauma and PTSD. There could even be legal implications if unconsenting individuals are included in the CNC fantasy.
CNC is known as consensual non-consensual; this is something that many women fantasize about and often want to act these fantasies out. In studies, more than half the women surveyed said that they had forced sex fantasies.
If CNC is something you are interested in, it is something that needs to be discussed in-depth with a partner that you trust completely. It might seem mundane to discuss every detail, but it is essential to completely understand what you agree to and how it might affect you.
You need to plan everything out in detail, you MUST have a safeword, and you must discuss negative and positive triggers. With CNC, it is best to start off slowly, try a few elements involved in the fantasy, and gradually build it up from there. I would not recommend roleplaying a full CNC scene right from the get-go.
I would suggest discussing the below when planning a CNC scene:
- Play Intensity — Will you fight back during the scene
- Rough Play — What kind of play is permitted, i.e., punching, kicking, scratching, and spitting.
- Limits — What body parts are off-limits, what are your hard limits, and what language you are comfortable with.
- Accessories — What can of implements should be used, i.e., gags, rope, or even a knife.
- Location — Where will the scene take place, is there a risk that someone might witness or hear it and possibly report it. How will the scene begin, is there a time limit to the scene. What clothing should be worn, depending on how you want the scene to play out, i.e., will you wear a skirt for “easy” access, do you want your clothing forcefully removed or torn off your body.
These are all crucial details to discuss and to plan the scene correctly. It would be best if you also discussed what the desired outcome of the scene would be. Is it just a CNC fantasy, or do you have past trauma that you want to overcome?
The most important thing required with a CNC scene is aftercare. A CNC scene is exceptionally intense and will affect the submissive and the dominant; an aftercare plan is of the utmost importance to validate each other and both parties’ feelings and prevent a sub drop or dom drop.
Plan your CNC fantasy out properly, start off slowly, be aware of your partner’s needs, and enjoy it safely.
Originally published at https://www.wiseharsh.com.
