A Pleasure Dom/me is a Dom/me that derives pleasure from sexually pleasuring their submissives. They will push their submissives to have as many orgasms as their submissive’s body can tolerate. However, there is more to it than unlimited orgasms.

A Pleasure, Dom/me, knows their submissive intimately; this means knowing them physically, mentally, and emotionally. Knowing how to turn them on without too much physical touch initially, but just talking to them, you should be able to turn them on. Pleasure Dom/me’s often enjoy forced orgasms, sensation play.

It is…

It seems newbie submissives are often under the impression that all submissives are masochists; this is, however, further from the truth. The most important thing to remember as a submissive, especially if you are a newbie, is that your submission is a gift you give to a Dom/me.

BDSM is an acronym for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. You do not have to participate in all of the above definitions of BDSM. Not all submissives are masochists, and if you don’t enjoy or want pain, you should not include impact play into your dynamic.

As a…

Erotic hypnosis has become more popular over the years, and many more people are experimenting with it now. Hypnosis has been around for centuries and has been used to treat people with anxiety and fears; it has even been used to help people break their bad habits.

Erotic hypnosis, also know as Hypno Sex, is often used to increase sexual desires, sexual feelings, and how you respond sexually. Hypno Sex also falls in the BDSM world; it forms part of Dominance and submission play and is thought of as a kink.

Often the dominant

A service Dom/me often seems to get a really bad wrap. They are often described as insecure as weak as they don’t take on the “dominant” role. They will take instructions from their bottom, often referred to as topping from the bottom. A Service Dom/me is also known as a Service Top.

A Pro Dom/me will also be called a Service Dom/me; however, the difference is they are being paid to Service you and listen to what you want or need from your session.

A Service Top isn’t insecure or weak, and they enjoy giving their submissive pleasure. They would instead make…

SSC and RACK are known acronyms in the BDSM community, and both these acronyms are in reference to BDSM activities and scenes; they form part of the fundamental BDSM principles.

What is SSC? SSC stands for safe, sane, and consensual. It came about in the 1980s as a way to practice BDSM safely within the community.

What is RACK? RACK stands for risk aware consensual kink; this acronym became more popular towards the new millennium.

Although both these acronyms are…

People are always looking for funishment ideas, and depending on your BDSM dynamic and relationship, there are possibly hundreds of ways you can include funishments in your dynamic or relationship.

What is funishment? Funishment is used often in a scene, or it forms part of the build-up to a scene. You have established rules and tasks in your relationship or dynamic, but let us be honest, some rules are meant to be broken unless it has explicitly been said that…


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